It is really hard to find and maintain good relationships.
My grandmother told me that if something or someone doesn’t make you happy, doesn’t edify your soul or benefit you; you don’t want it in your life.
But growing up in church we are taught to love unconditionally and be a “rock” for everyone.
Throughout my years I’ve come to the realisation that we cannot be a rock for everyone when we are not a rock for ourselves first.
Some people will take advantage of us but instead of being upset or angry with said person it is up to you as an individual to learn when to say no.
When to realise that this person is no longer good for your health.
When to distance yourself and cut off the negative energy you cannot handle.
I’ve really struggled with this lately. Although I am not a perfect human being I have this belief that’s been embedded in me since I was a child. I can love people past their pain, past their insecurities and love them until they love themselves.
My belief caused me grief for years. I was never able to disconnect emotionally from all the wrong doing or misuse of my efforts. I had trouble letting go of friendships that damaged my wellbeing and people that expected more than I could give.
I felt that if I gave up on these people I was failing.
I went from being giving and gregarious to being guarded, isolated and angry. I thought I hated people but really I was mad with myself for allowing myself to be mistreated so much.
If you are a natural healer you must learn to disconnect and cut off your energy when it is being drained instead of shared.
It is not hard to find good relationships if you love and value yourself first. For you are what you attract.
An epiphany for 2018, I forgive myself and love myself and will continue to build people up like I was created to do so.
The second is this: “You shall love your neighbour as yourself. There is no other commandment greater than these.”