It’s normal for a “guy” friend to ask a female to hook them up with a friend but I have rarely heard one of my female friends asking me to fix them up with a close friend.
I asked a few females and the response seemed very collective.
The concerns ranged from worrying that the two introduced friends will spend too much time together taking away from their own relationship, to having a secret crush on your male friend and no longer having them as an option if they decided to pursue it.
Not surprising to me but the concerns were mainly that the male would be taken away with not enough time for the now third wheeled friend.
It sounds like some females are keeping their male friends as unspoken options and setting him up to a possibly successful relationship would result in a “My Best Friend’s Wedding” type situation.
On the other hand I have hooked up quite a few females with my male friends, always hopeful that it will work out.
I’ve also been on the other end of the stick, intrigued by one meeting with a close friend of a close friend.
I approached my friend and she seemed fine with it so I then decided to approach him. We hung out as a group a few more times so I could form my judgement and we were flirtatious, spoke after the group get together and exchanged phone numbers.
After feeling like there was more than a friendly connection I decided to approach him. He stated that he felt it was a back stab to our friend.
He seemed conflicted abut his decision, he then stated “I wish we could,” which made me wonder if my friend had the same mindset as these other females and said something to ban the situation from the other end.
Maybe, maybe not. I’ll never know.
I wonder if some women keep male “friends” around as a back-up just in case they find themselves alone at 30, or save them for a rainy day and an ego boost. Is being single really that scary that we entertain relationships we don’t really value as real friendship?
I wonder what the view is vice versa – do males secretly do the same thing and if so why aren’t they just getting together straight away?
Are we all just back-up plans for our friends?